Last night in a rather intimate setting that I chose on a whim to go to to find my own comfort, I met a 36 yr old detective who already had 1 divorce with no children under his belt, and another divorce with a child currently pending resolution. My 1st thought was that’s a lot of divorces at 36. The 1st one was amicable due to being too young and unavailable as a husband while paying his dues at work to become a detective. The 2nd one is due to his 25yr old wife having to get a job for the first time in their marriage to help out the family, while he sorted out issues at work. She has now discovered the freedom in making her own money and being part of the nightlife culture- which she would rather pursue without the attachment of marriage. This news comes just at the time when he finds out that he could be forced into early retirement due to an on the job injury, which would expedite their dream of moving to the Island nation of his wife’s birth to start a new life where they can live comfortably on his pension and allow him his dream to be able to surf in sunshine everyday.
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this guy because I was rather shocked that within the 5 minutes that we had alone without his friends, he was so open in telling me such intimate details of his work life, his love-life, his troubled life, his childhood being raised by his grandparents with a father in prison and a mother who chose to abandon him and his future dreams to raise his child with his wife in another country-which will now be a dream deferred due to his pending divorce. I don’t know if he or people in general open up to strangers about intimate details of their life on a regular basis, but I know I don’t. Hopefully I was somehow a human angel sent to him to relieve him of this pain and carried burden because at the end of our conversation he seemed clear that he was ready to forgive himself and to not repeat his childhood cycle by being the best father he could possibly be for his child.
His story showed that the scars left by broken families and bruised people in being denied a love that one desperately wants and desires from another- be it family, friends or lover is a felt pain that is universal without boundaries. Never judge a book by its cover because many would never think this would be the story of this tall, fairly handsome, athletic, gainfully employed white man, who grew up in affluent Sag Harbor loving to play soccer and surf in our blinded perceptions of what privilege looks like. Genuine human interaction is more often than not the best way to find our humanity. There’s no doubt in my mind that this man will marry again because there are some people who love and desire the idea of marriage and a family unit as something they need to complete their ideal life -particularly many who didn’t have such privilege in their upbringing. Love is truly strongest when we learn to trust despite our doubts. #LoveMore#TrustMore - but be conscious in who you choose to love and trust because often as hard as we fight against reliving our past, we end up running toward its familiar comforts.
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As the world celebrates the memorial of Nelson Mandela - let us not forget that today is Human Rights Day - was 1st chosen to honor the UN proclamation of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights on December 10, 1948. This was said to be the 1st enunciation of human rights & 1 of the 1st major ache invents of the United Nations. We as people of the world have a long way to go on achieving human rights for all & the UN has an even longer way to go in its credibility on such a declaration considering that many of the nations such as Saudi Arabia that head up its UN Human Rights Council are amongst the worst violators of human rights.
#Fact … Quoting my uncle on South Africa’s President Zuma getting booed at Mandela’s memorial service “Ofcourse they will boo him … He’s corrupt… Any man with multiple wives shows he’s greedy & will be greedy in taking public funds… If you can’t control your thing …how can you be trusted to control anything…am I lying” LOL… No you are Not!
Revolutionary Men receive the greatest love of all from revolutionary women #FirstLadies #HonoringOurWomenOfRevolutions #SA #Mozambique #WinnieMandela #GracaMachel…………. “Revolutions are brought by men, by men who think as men of action and act as men of thought… Africa is a paradox which illustrates and highlights neo-colonialism. Her earth is rich, yet the products that come from above and below the soul continue to enrich, not Africans predominately, but groups and individuals who operate to Africa’s impoverishment” - Dr. Kwame Nkrumah … Lest we not forget that revolutions are also brought by women and lest we not forget that freedom from colonialism to neo- colonialism was not the revolution that was fought for because it gives no freedom at all.
This picture always makes me smile from within … #BeautyOfAfrica #NP #AfricanGirl #SugarMinott.. “My little African girl … You’re the nicest girl to me in this whole wide …Don’t think that I am prejudice -No… I like many other girls , but my African princess - She’s so special to me” #GoodMorning
"It is time for the next generation to continue our struggle against social injustice and for the rights of humanity. It is in your hands."
Brrrr - got my fill of the perfect spicy with a lil bit of bark vino Rosso to prepare for the snow storm . Love mi familia #ILPostoAccanto #PlanningWorldCup2014 - who you got #Ghana ##USA #Ecuador #Italia Representing -LOL! (at Il Posto Accanto)